Relationships · All levels
Build a partnership that feels like support, not strain
A self-paced programme for adults who want clear communication, shared direction and a relationship that lasts beyond daily logistics.
- 30 recorded lessons
- 7 structured modules
- Printable workbook
- Lifetime access
- 14-day money-back guarantee
Why good relationships need a shared language
Most relationships do not fall apart because two people stop caring. They drift because the everyday load — bills, children, work, family expectations — takes up all the space where connection used to live. You may still run the household well together and feel that the two of you have become business partners in logistics rather than companions.
The ABC of Relationships is a self-paced programme for adults who want to change that pattern. It starts from a simple idea: connection is not one grand gesture. It is a set of small, repeatable actions that can be noticed, practised and agreed on. The course gives you a shared vocabulary for those actions, so a conversation about the relationship does not have to begin with blame.
Across seven modules you move from activation and awakening to the basics of communication, preparation for difficult topics, daily practice and a longer view of what you are building together. The lessons are recorded, the exercises are practical, and the workbook keeps your notes in one place.
You do not need to arrive with a perfect relationship or a perfect partner. You need a willingness to look honestly at the current pattern and to test small changes over time. The course is designed for that kind of steady, adult work.
What you will be able to do
Each ability below is trained through a short lesson and a written exercise you can complete on your own.
- Name what is actually happening
Describe the current state of your relationship in plain words instead of vague frustration.
- Recognise your own contribution
Separate your habits and reactions from your partner's, so the conversation stops being a trial.
- Start a difficult conversation safely
Use a simple opening structure that lowers defensiveness on both sides.
- Set agreements instead of ultimatums
Turn wishes into specific, checkable arrangements about time, money and attention.
- Notice the small signals of distance
Catch the early signs of disconnection before they turn into weeks of silence.
- Build a daily practice of contact
Design a ten-minute routine that keeps the two of you in touch on ordinary days.
- Handle household and money tension
Discuss practical pressure without letting it become the only topic you share.
- Choose a direction for the long term
Articulate what you want the relationship to make possible for both of you in five years.
- 7
- structured modules
- 30
- recorded lessons
- 1
- printable workbook
- 14
- days to change your mind
The method: small actions, honestly reviewed
The course does not ask you to rebuild your whole personality or to wait for a dramatic turning point. It works on the level where relationships actually change: the repeated behaviours of an ordinary Tuesday evening.
Each module follows the same rhythm. First you observe — you write down what happens now, without editing it to look better. Then you choose one small behaviour to adjust. Then you test it for a week and record what shifted. The workbook holds all three steps, so patterns become visible instead of staying in your head.
This is why the programme suits people whose relationship is not in crisis but has become flat, transactional or quietly lonely. It also suits people who are single and want to enter a future relationship with clearer expectations and better habits.
- Observation before advice
- One change at a time
- Written exercises, not just listening
- Weekly review you can repeat on your own
How the course works
The programme is fully self-paced. Every lesson is a recorded video you watch when it suits you, followed by a short written exercise in the workbook. There is no fixed schedule and no live attendance to arrange, so you can move through the material in the evenings, at weekends or in a few concentrated sessions.
The modules are ordered deliberately: the early ones help you see the situation clearly, the middle ones give you tools for conversation and preparation, and the final ones turn those tools into a routine and a longer-term direction. Most learners take one module per week, which keeps the exercises fresh between sessions.
Everything is delivered digitally right after purchase: lesson videos, the workbook file and the exercise prompts. You keep access to the material, so you can return to a module months later when a new situation appears.
The programme
Seven modules, thirty lessons, one continuous line of work from first observation to long-term direction.
1Module 0 — IntroductionSet up your baseline and decide what you want to change.4 lessons
- What this programme is and how to use the workbook
- Mapping your relationship as it is today
- Separating facts from interpretations
- Choosing your first focus for the next seven weeks
2Module 1 — ActivationWake up your own side of the relationship before asking anything of your partner.4 lessons
- Where your attention goes during a normal day
- The difference between reacting and responding
- Auditing the habits you brought from your family
- A first experiment: one deliberate act of attention per day
3Module 2 — AwakeningNotice what you have stopped seeing and saying.3 lessons
- The signals of distance you have learned to ignore
- What you appreciate but never mention out loud
- Writing an honest inventory of unmet needs
4Module 3 — The ABC of relationshipsThe core communication toolkit: listening, asking, agreeing, repairing.7 lessons
- Listening without preparing your reply
- Asking questions that open instead of interrogate
- How to raise a complaint without an accusation
- Requests, agreements and clear boundaries
- Repair after a conflict: the four-step conversation
- Talking about money and household load
- When to pause a conversation and how to return to it
5Module 4 — PreparationGet ready for the conversations you have been postponing.4 lessons
- Choosing the right moment and setting
- Preparing your three key points in writing
- Anticipating reactions without rehearsing a fight
- Setting a realistic outcome for a first talk
6Module 5 — PracticeTurn the toolkit into a weekly routine you can sustain.4 lessons
- Designing a ten-minute daily check-in
- A weekly review for two, done separately if needed
- Tracking progress in the workbook without scorekeeping
- What to do when a week goes badly
7Module 6 — Higher tasteLook beyond maintenance towards the relationship you actually want.4 lessons
- Shared values versus shared logistics
- Describing your five-year direction in concrete terms
- Supporting each other's separate goals
- Closing exercise: your written relationship agreement
What you get
Everything is delivered digitally and stays in your account.
- 30 recorded video lessons
Short, focused explanations you can watch in any order within a module.
- A printable workbook
Observation sheets, conversation planners and weekly review pages.
- Exercise prompts for each lesson
Written tasks that take ten to twenty minutes, not whole evenings.
- A conversation script library
Opening lines and structures for the talks people avoid most.
- A weekly review template
A repeatable routine for checking what changed and what did not.
- A written relationship agreement template
The closing exercise of the final module, ready to fill in.
- Ongoing access
Return to any module later, at no extra cost.
Is this course for you?
This course is for you if…
- Adults in a long relationship that has become practical and flat
- People whose daily life together is dominated by household, money and children
- Single adults who want clearer expectations before starting a partnership
- Anyone who prefers written exercises and private reflection to group discussion
Probably not a fit if…
- Couples in acute crisis, active conflict or situations involving safety concerns
- People looking for couples therapy or professional psychological treatment
- Anyone hoping for a script that makes a partner change without their own participation
- Readers who want live coaching, group calls or personal feedback on their case
After the course
By the final module you will have a written record of how your relationship looked at the start, which behaviours you changed and what happened as a result. That record is more useful than a vague feeling of having learned something, because you can return to it when the pattern starts to slip.
In practical terms, most people finish with a small set of routines in place: a short daily check-in, a weekly review, a way to open a difficult topic without an argument, and a clearer sense of what they want the next few years to contain.
The course cannot decide for you whether a particular relationship should continue. What it can do is give you the language, the structure and the honesty to answer that question yourself — and to act on the answer calmly rather than in the middle of a fight.
Questions before you buy
How much time does the course take each week?
Most learners spend around two hours a week: roughly one hour of video lessons and one hour on the written exercises. The programme is self-paced, so a lighter or heavier week is entirely up to you.
Do I need to take the course with my partner?
No. The exercises are written for one person to complete alone. Many learners work through the material privately first and only later invite their partner into a conversation. Nothing in the programme requires a second participant.
Are there any prerequisites?
None. The course is suitable for complete beginners in this kind of reflection, and it does not assume previous training in psychology or communication. A notebook or the printable workbook is all you need.
How do I get access after payment?
Access is granted automatically once the payment is confirmed. You receive the lesson library and the workbook file in your account and can start with the introductory module immediately.
What format are the lessons in?
Each lesson is a recorded video of a few minutes, followed by a short written exercise in the workbook. There are no live sessions to attend and no fixed schedule to keep.
Does the material stay available?
Yes. Your access does not expire, so you can revisit any module later, repeat the exercises after a few months or work through the programme a second time at a slower pace.
What is the refund policy?
You have 14 days from purchase to request a refund. If the programme is not what you expected, contact support within that period and the payment is returned.
Is this a substitute for therapy?
No. The course is an educational programme about communication habits and everyday relationship routines. It does not diagnose, treat or replace professional psychological or medical support, and it is not designed for situations involving crisis or risk.
What if my partner refuses to discuss the relationship?
The programme is built so that your own side of the work stands on its own. Several modules focus on observation, preparation and your own routines, which you can complete whether or not a partner is ready to join the conversation.
Start with the first module this week
Thirty recorded lessons, a printable workbook and a routine you can keep — for €59.00, with 14 days to change your mind.